Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Make Good Memories

My husband, Bill's Grandma, Z., was in a nursing home when we moved back to Michigan. Grandma had been unable to walk for quite some time; now, her eyesight was almost gone.
Over the years, Grandma Z. and I exchanged many cards and letters. I knew how she enjoyed staying in touch with people.
Since I'd returned to Michigan, Grandma Z. thought I should be her "personal secretary." Trying to jog her memory, I said, "I guess you've forgotten how bad my handwriting is." Grandma Z. acted like she didn't hear me.
Grandma would have me write letters in the cards she would send. She would dictate; then, I would do my best to write down what she said. Grandma would always have me read what I had written back to her. Grandma had no problem hearing them because she always told me, "That is not exactly how I said that!" I would then rewrite whatever I wrote in her exact words.
Since I had some extra time before Christmas, I asked Grandma if she would like to send Christmas cards. Grandma readily agreed. I rounded up several different kinds of cards. I knew she had friends and family who all had other interests. I would take each card and describe the front of the card in detail, and then I would read the verse inside. After thinking it over, Grandma would tell me who she thought would like each card.
After a while, I looked up, and I noticed that we had several nursing home residents standing in the doorway. As I read each card, I started to see the look on their faces and Grandma Z's face, too. Each one had a faint smile and a faraway look as they saw the scenes in their mind's eyes.
When I went over to do the Christmas cards, I thought I would be doing Grandma Z. a favor, but it turned out that she did me a big favor. I'll always cherish this precious memory of bringing Christmas joy and pleasant memories to Grandma and her fellow residents.
Thanks to Grandma Z., I made a "good memory" to pass on to you.

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